Week ONE

 

Recommendation to prep for week Two

  • Read the Reckoning pages: Intro - p. 75
  • Check out the last 2 pages of the e journal
  • How Values light the way and Clarification
  • Use the list of values in this exercise
  • This will prepare you for our breakout groups and group discussions.
  • LINKS TO Brene' Brown Printable:

    Story Rumble Glossary

    Values Clarification

 

Welcome Rising Strong Women!!!

What an amazing and dynamic gathering of strong souls we have! I am excited beyond words to be leading this again. We all have such beautiful gifts to bring into light and Brene's work lights the way with solid strategies for creating opportunities in our lives.... for authenticity, for connection, for courage and so much more! 

Are we ready? Yes we are!!!

Because of the power outage, we missed out on sharing some videos to inspire your reading. So I have created a really poor quality collection of the clips that will help you most grasp onto the reading.  It will be deleted from YouTube within the time we complete this course to avoid copy right or trade mark infringement.


A LIST OF WHAT WE COVER ON AND BEFORE 9/25/17AND additional  "homework"

Printable e-journal

Reading assignments (check each week)

FOR THOSE WHO LIKE TO WRITE...

Journaling IDEA!!

  • Pick a personal story from your past.
  • Find or take a picture that represents the start of a journey and attach it to your journal.
  • Write the beginning of your story.
    • What happened? 
    • What are the facts?
    • What was your face down in the arena moment?
  • You can use the supplies you have available to get creative when completing and decorating this journal page.

Self reflection before Monday 

Videos for plugging into Brene's work

Additional journal you'll want to bring

A disclaimer to be signed upon arrival

 

JOURNAL:  You will also want to bring an additional journal for writing (what kind and size? That's entirely up to you). If you plan on using this journal in our mixed media class(which is a fun Brene Brown inspired arty approach to Rising Strong, make sure it's 75lb paper or more).

 


 The Physics of VulnerabilityChoose one or two for group discussions for 10/2/17 meeting... (We will review and then discuss- no worries)

1. If I am brave enough, often enough, I will fall; this is the physics of vulnerability. 

My challenge:

My opportunity for growth:

2. Once I fall in the service of being brave, I can never go back.

My challenge:

My opportunity for growth:

3. This journey belongs to no one but me; however, no one successfully goes it alone.

My challenge:

My opportunity for growth:

4.  I’m wired for story.

My challenge:

My opportunity for growth:

5. Creativity embeds knowledge so that it can become practice. I move what I’m learning from my head to my heart through my hands.

My challenge:

My opportunity for growth:

6. Rising strong is the same process whether I’m navigating personal or professional struggles.

My challenge:

My opportunity for growth:

7. Comparative suffering is a function of fear and scarcity.

My challenge:

My opportunity for growth:

8. I can’t engineer an emotional, vulnerable, and courageous process into an easy, one-size-fits-all formula.

My challenge:

My opportunity for growth:

9. Courage is contagious.

My challenge:

My opportunity for growth:

10. Rising strong is a spiritual practice.

My challenge:

My opportunity for growth:

This may be a great time to revisit permission slips!  Is there anything you need to add?


The Three Acts of a Story

Act 1 The character faces or is confronted by a challenge and accepts that challenge. The rules of the world are established, and the end of Act 1 is the “inciting incident.”

Act 2 The character looks for every comfortable way to solve the problem. By the climax, s/he learns what it’s really going to take to solve the problem. This act includes the lowest of the low.

Act 3 The character needs to prove s/he has learned the lesson, usually showing a willingness to prove this at all costs. This is all about redemption—an enlightened character knowing what to do to resolve a conflict.


Identify Your Fall   (group share/discussion)

Pick a story of struggle that you want to explore.....What was your fall or “face down” in the arena moment?

Remember, a fall can be a small moment, a painful conversation, a big failure, or a growing disappointment. The important thing is to be specific. Capture the moment in detail. Also, be sure to only talk about the moment of your fall - don’t try to figure out the ending.


Getting Emotionally Hooked(JOURNALING PROMPT)

Using the Story Rumble Glossary in the e journal, pick four emotions that you want to explore.  

Story Rumble Glossary

First Emotion:

  When I experience:

Enter the emotion you've selected.

I’m feeling (Affect / Emotion):

How’s my body responding?

Where am I physically feeling this?

I’m thinking (Cognition):

Is there a thought constantly looping in my mind?

What’s my go-to thought process?

I do / I act (Behavior):

What’s the first thing I want to do?

What’s the only thing I want to do?

 

Second Emotion:

When I experience:

Enter the emotion you've selected.

I’m feeling (Affect / Emotion):

How’s my body responding?

Where am I physically feeling this?

I’m thinking (Cognition):

Is there a thought constantly looping in my mind?

What’s my go-to thought process?

I do / I act (Behavior):

What’s the first thing I want to do?

What’s the only thing I want to do?

 

Third Emotion:

When I experience:

Enter the emotion you've selected.

I’m feeling (Affect / Emotion):

How’s my body responding?

Where am I physically feeling this?

I’m thinking (Cognition):

Is there a thought constantly looping in my mind?

What’s my go-to thought process?

I do / I act (Behavior):

What’s the first thing I want to do?

What’s the only thing I want to do?

 

Fourth emotion:

When I experience:

Enter the emotion you've selected.

 

I’m feeling (Affect / Emotion):

How’s my body responding?

Where am I physically feeling this?

I’m thinking (Cognition):

Is there a thought constantly looping in my mind?

What’s my go-to thought process?

I do / I act (Behavior):

What’s the first thing I want to do?

What’s the only thing I want to do?

Note: Anger is what we consider a secondary emotion. It’s usually masking other emotions. 

 Using the Story Rumble Glossary, write down the names of all of the emotions that often show up as anger for you.


 Cultivating Curiosity- GROUP DISCUSSION TOPICS for 10/2/2017   

(We will review and then discuss- no worries)

The research made it clear that a lot of how much or how little we value emotion comes from what we were taught or saw as we were growing up.  That value usually results from a combination of several of the seven ideas listed below.   Which of the following ring true and how do they resonate with you?  

1. Being emotional is a sign of vulnerability, and vulnerability is weakness.

2. Don’t ask. Don’t tell. You can feel emotion all you want, but there’s nothing to be gained by sharing it with others.

3. We don’t have access to emotional language or a full emotional vocabulary, so we stay quiet or make fun of it.

4. Discussing emotion is frivolous, self-­indulgent, and a waste of time. It’s not for people like us.

5. We’re so numb to feeling that there’s nothing to discuss.

6. Uncertainty is too uncomfortable.

7. Engaging and asking questions invites trouble. I’ll learn something I don’t want to or shouldn’t know.


We will pause here but feel free to continue journaling:

Offloading Hurt Strategies - Barriers to Reckoning with emotion

My Reckoning

Strategies for reckoning with emotion

Getting Curious about my story(brings together our story using the material) see page 17 of e-journal

 

 


The following was in the email sent before we met on Sept. 25th....

BEFORE MONDAY:  There's some reading and self reflection assignments that you'll want to make time for.(see below) you'll feel more prepared and plugged in on Monday if you have a sense of the topics and discussion. It's not a test, it's not high school all over, but it may help with the jitters if we all have some idea of the direction of the discussions and how you might want to prepare. 

 

IMPORTANT NOTE (based on prior group feedback here is some advice if this is your first time attending a journaling group &I Brene' Brown book club)....Please remember that we can apply these strategies to situations in our past that we have already healed on some level. Brene' recommends this so we don't feel bullied into sharing deep and painful topics that may trigger something we are not able to handle in a group setting.  The discussions on values and off shooting can be applied to things like an argument with the local shop clerk on a day that you wish you stayed in bed(for example)... just think about the lighter situations that keep coming up in your head and how these approaches might help us connect deeper and bring empathy to ourselves and everyone around us. Make sense? 

Does that take a little pressure off after reviewing the book and journal? (That's my hope)

 

GO DEEP- WE ARE ALL IN THIS TOGETHER:  On the flip side, we have a group of amazing women attending. So we can hold space for some powerful transformation to take place. We will be offering share time, group discussions(pairing up with one other person) and this will be an space of non-judgement, open mindedness and completely free of critique AND advice giving. We are all simply holding space and allowing  ourselves to be heard and listen, to love and receive love, to find courage and to share empathy with all who join. 

 

YOUTUBE PLAYLIST!!

My favorite videos from a variety of her books:

http://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLb-pQx8d1KbzsIUG63qYCcuaki2_2EcKB

 

LOGISTICS:

Parking will be a challenge since we have a figure Drawing class at the same time in our main studio.

We are in the healing space at Liverpool Art Center 101 Lake Drive ( look for Brene Brown sign)

 

Recommended: come into the village early! Walk the lake! Have a coffee with the book and journals! Schedule some time for you to sink in a little. Mmmmmm, doesn't that sound nice?

No worries if you can't due to work, just try to decompress with some music on your drive to the center. 

 

WHEN TO ARRIVE ON MONDAYS:

We start right at 6:30!! Doors open at 6:00pm and meditation music will be playing for those who wish to come and relax in a quiet space before we meet.

If you want to arrive early, park at the center and walk you will beat the drawing class to be able to park on site.

 


Here is a fun visual art journaling activity!

From Gifts of Imperfection:

The 10 Guideposts for Wholehearted Living

Cut out, color, stamp, glue, paint! Have fun creating space in your visual journal and then make time to sit with each guidepost. It's a beautiful guided book, so if you are curious....buy the book and play!...